Based on ethnographic fieldwork conducted at a Confucian classical school, three topics are investigated: parents' narratives and actions related to 'dis-embedding' their children from mainstream state education and transferring them to Confucian education as an alternative; the specific discourses and practices of teaching and learning the classics in everyday school life, guided by the aim of training students to become autonomous learners; and the institutional and subjective dilemmas that arise when parents and students seek to 're-embed' themselves in either the state education system or further Confucian studies at an advanced academy for the next stage of education.